I received an email from a relative last week. It was, on the surface at least, well meaning, but it could also be construed as condescending.
Re your email expressing outrage with Trump and incarcerated kids, at least he caved (although harm already done can’t be undone).
Without crawling under a rock, I try to avoid at least some of this aggravation. …
No doubt your frequent visits to Carnegie Hall and related forays into classical music (not to mention long walks) are therapeutic. You, like me, might try to avoid or at least minimize all the stuff that aggravates.
I replied to my relative as follows.
I am mostly apolitical and have tried over the past couple of years not to be consumed with hatred of Trump.
The news about the incarceration of immigrant kids has really gotten to me, however. I can’t bear to contemplate it.
Also, immigration has long been an issue I have cared about and blogged about.
I won’t change.
You are right that “harm already done can’t be undone.” I read that the administration has said nothing about the children who have already been separated from their parents and that no steps are underway to reunite them.
I feel that this is an egregious violation of human rights that will not be forgotten and can’t be remedied, it seems. I mean the whole anti-immigrant policy, the characterization and treatment of immigrants as vermin, and worst of all, the separation of parents and children.
Some people profess hatred and scorn for Donald Trump and his supporters, the “deplorables.” They are in the liberal vanguard and can be counted upon to support left of center politicians. When those politicians support policies merely for political expediency — such as Hillary Clinton (one of their favorites, arch enemy of the “deplorables”) voting for the Iraq War — they look the other way. Doctrinaire liberalism and political orthodoxy trump independent thinking, which might, they fear, make them appear ideologically “incorrect” and cause them to lose friends or to be looked down upon by them.
These people want nothing to do with the “deplorables” and isolate themselves in mostly white, upper middle class neighborhoods where they won’t have to rub elbows with the proletariat (George Orwell’s proles).
When an outrage is seen such as the Trump administration’s hard line policies towards immigrants — PEOPLE like you and I (and we are descended, like all Americans, from immigrants) — Washington Post columnist Michael Gerson (a conservative) calls it, with dead on accuracy, “state-sponsored cruelty” — my relatives and their liberal friends are strangely silent.
They hate Donald Trump and Trump apologists such as Sarah Huckabee Sanders and Kellyanne Conway. They march in parades where placards with a crude caricature of Trump reading “The only asshole is in the White House” are held aloft.
Trump to them represents the antithesis of their enlightened beliefs and values. They are eager to make the distinction manifest — that they are exemplars of values that distinguish the “best people” from ignorant and unrefined people.
But concern for actual people, especially sweaty aliens from the impoverished lower classes arriving in rafts and/or on foot at the Texas border, does not engage their sympathies or excite their imagination. And, while religion may be given lip service, an impassioned appeal to fundamental Christian tenets such as charity also does not move them; it may more often than not be an embarrassment to them and perhaps remind my auditors (heaven forbid) of the religious right.
Hence the advice to me from a relative to not get too worked up over the separation of immigrant children from their parents.
What such people care about is being on the “correct” side of political debates. They are essentially cold-blooded conformists to liberal ideology. Card carrying liberals who can be counted upon for support of ordained policies and positions.
They don’t care all that much about living, breathing, suffering people. The plight of lower class immigrants does not engage them emotionally. Of course, they do care about the welfare of their own families (and the maintenance of their own public institutions and communities), but that’s another matter. As long as they are safe in their suburban enclaves, they are not going to lose that much sleep over a few thousand “losers” and their children locked up in cages.
Caring deeply about man’s inhumanity to certain groups and persons can actually embarrass them. They would prefer that their relatives don’t call attention to themselves by expressing moral outrage, without checking with them first.
A historical parallel comes to mind. Many people felt at the time that abolitionists in their strident denunciations of slavery and insistence on immediate abolition were fanatics who should have restrained themselves. The parallel may not be exact in the present instance, but why am I being advised to “get a grip” on myself and exercise “restraint” when it comes to my distress and anger, indeed horror, over the consequences of the Trump administration’s anti-immigrant policies? This from Trump haters. Haters, but I question the depth and sincerity of their compassion.
— Roger W. Smith
Stop the self-serving blathering.
Despite your recent posts bemoaning the Trump administrations horrific treatment of immigrant families, you forget your posting in support of Trump after the Billy Bush tape, pretending that this was just “locker room talk” (Trump’s own characterization) and thus joining the legions of racist misogynist xenophobic supporters who chose to look the other way at this horrible idiot and, incredibly, helped get him elected.
Your relatives are not two-faced liberals who pretend compassion but live for only themselves. Carol Ralph, I and our spouses have given more than you will ever know (because you don’t ask or care) and far far more than you have given to support the underprivileged, both through personal service and financial support. Your hateful screeds denying this are an insult to your family and an embarrassment to yourself.
Stop reposting this garbage.
Rereading YOUR hateful comment one thing is obvious to me. You don’t care about the issue that concerns me: the treatment of immigrant families. You barely mention it. You hate Trump. You don’t care about the children, which I do. You can’t demean my writings on the subject. much as you would like to.
Calling me a “racist misogynist xenophobic” supporter is simply a case of you venting spleen with no basis for saying this. (And of hurling insults in Trump fashion. Say whatever nasty, unfounded thing you can think of — something might stick.) Of course, there is no evidence of this in my personal life or writings. “[S]elf-serving blathering and “garbage” to refer to this post show that you have no appreciation of good, thoughtful writing, or the sentiments that underlie this piece. Finally, there is virtually no mention of relatives and none of my family in this post. You should be more careful about what you allege, and this requires reading the piece carefully to see what was actually said and how.
It’s also worth nothing that you and other family members in angry comments and emails not once have noted the seriousness of or shown concern about the family separation issue, which is of great concern to me. (You regard this as of no account.) And how it affects the views of the citizenry. You took my post personally, rather than perceiving what I was attempting to say and responding to what I actually wrote. You should direct your outrage elsewhere, towards the injustices being done by the Trump administration.
I have put a great deal of effort and thought to keeping abreast of and commenting upon the issue of family separation. To you, it is merely “blathering” and amounts to “screeds.” Too bad you can’t appreciate the serious, earnest concern on my part that underlies it and which there is no indication that you share.