Category Archives: relationships (general comments re)

On Friendships: Forming, Preserving, and (Sometimes) Knowing When to End Them

    “For the rest, what we commonly call friends and friendships, are nothing but acquaintance and familiarities, either occasionally contracted, or upon some design, by means of which there happens some little intercourse betwixt our souls. But in the … Continue reading

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hatred that feeds a psychological need

      It has a life of its own. Feeds on itself. I have seen it, depressingly, in my own life. Where the hatred is or was directed at me. It is a fire which smolders and then rages, … Continue reading

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“don’t misbehave”

    A couple of years ago, I went back to my hometown, Canton, Massachusetts, for a high school reunion and visited an old friend. It was great to see him. We got to talking briefly about our old school … Continue reading

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a valuable lesson

    I have had occasion because of an unpleasant experience with someone close to me to think of something I learned once. In the interests of confidentiality, let’s just say that the situation from my past. The “lesson” (with … Continue reading

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must it always be sexual?

  Something occurred to me this morning because of an exchange of emails I had with an acquaintance the other day. It concerned the issue of sexual impropriety in the workplace. Without going into the details of our email exchange … Continue reading

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Immersing Oneself Is To Be Desired

    If you trap the moment before it’s ripe, The tears of repentance you’ll certainly wipe; But if once you let the ripe moment go You can never wipe off the tears of woe.   — William Blake, “If … Continue reading

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Harry Stack Sullivan on absolute love

  When the satisfaction or the security of another person becomes as significant to one as one’s own satisfaction or security, then the state of love exists. Under no other circumstances is a state of love present, regardless of the … Continue reading

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